The Big Three

Income, Transport, Shelter

Nicolas Morales

6/11/20224 min read

We have discussed that the path to recovery is unique and it's individualized, meaning you should probably take pieces from different methods that other people have used that will best fit what you're trying to accomplish. Remember, you must define what so sober is for you. So I ask, have you defined it yet?

The reason why I ask that is because if you can define what sober is for yourself, then you have somewhere to work towards. And these tips, tricks and tools that I share will help out in guiding you there. I'm not here to tell you how to do recovery that's for you to figure it out on your own. What I am here to do is give you tips, tools and tricks for my own journey so that you can reduce the time, the energy and the pain to get to your definition of sobriety. Now, since we know that we have to define our own definition of sober, we have to understand that it is a unique journey. That what uncle Tom did, auntie Suzy did, and Primo over there did might not work for us. We have to find our own unique path. Here's three things that you need to look for while you're going on your path, you need to factor in your likes, things that you do prefer things that you don't prefer. Do you prefer to be told what to do by a loving, nurturing way?

Or do you prefer to be told what to do? And do you get it done by having like a coach style yell, give you a firm direction, understanding how you like to be communicated with is super important during this journey. What you like in regards to your housing needs, what you like in regards to medicine or no medicine, what you like in regards to counselor or therapist, because there is a difference what you like, whether it's using a peer, not using a peer, You need to start identifying what you like and what you don't like. And here's a tip. You have to try a lot of different things in order to get an idea of what you like and what you don't like in my book, five things to know before you get sober. The third chapter is you're gonna get to know yourself.

I talk more deeply about it in there. And you can get that book at While you're going to get to know yourself, your likes and your dislikes may have changed, may have been influenced by the drugs or alcohol or the people that you were surrounding yourself with at the time that drugs and alcohol were in your system. So the first thing that you need to do is try new ways, try new activities and figure out which ones you like and which ones you don't like. That's the first thing, the second thing. What are your needs? There's three basic needs that I went through in my own journey. First was housing.

I needed some sort of housing over my head somewhere. I could just crash out for me. It was six walls, a floor, a ceiling and four walls. That's what I needed somewhere that I can go to be by myself. The second thing big need for me was mobility. Public transportation. Wasn't free. It's either public transportation, two wheels or four wheels, two wheels being the bike, four wheels being a car. If I was gonna use my truck, then I had to make sure there was gas in my four wheels. If not, then I had to use the two wheels that I had. And if I didn't even have two wheels, I had to use the cadda-legs. Yeah. That's when you go walk and I've walked plenty of miles to get some dope, Done stupid things. Just like I'm sure that you can recall walk four miles just for a, twenty of Sheva how stupid, stupid. I'm almost there. I'm almost there, bro. Just hold on tight and then hand do a bunch of fricking ones in change. Acting like an idiot. The third big need that I had was income. So shelter, wheels, and income. Those were my big three. If I could make some money, then I could get high. If I could make some money, then I could maybe pay for a spot to stay at. If I could make some money, if I could generate some income and I could put gas in my truck to go meet the dealer, go hit the next lick, whatever it was.

So after we've decided what sober means for us after we understand that it is a personal journey that we get to select on our own. What we need to start figuring out is our likes and our needs. Then from there, what we need to identify is the experiences. A lot of people don't like to factor in their experiences because we wanna protect our minds. We wanna protect and repress what we've been through, But let me put it this way. If in your experience, you have been traumatized by male. You're gonna be less reluctant to help receive help from a male. That's just one example.

There's a lot of different nuances, tones smells, looks haircuts. food that can trigger somebody. So your experiences are super important to understand while you're on this path. If you can't figure out what your experiences are, then you won't know what your likes are and you won't know what your needs are. Now. I didn't give you those three in order. So if we're trying to put 'em in order, then figure out your needs. First, figure out your experience. Second. And then your likes. Third. Those are the three things that I can share with you right now, because at the end of the day, I'm not here to tell you how to do it. You gotta figure that out for yourself. What I am here to do is give you some guidance and some encouragement, because I know from me having some having someone around rooting me on. Would've been so helpful. So that's what I wanna do for you. I wanna root you on, you can do this.

You can get through today without using. You can get through today without drinking, Gotta be a little vulnerable and it's gonna be uncomfortable, but you can do it. I got faith in you. You weren't created to be an angel, so it's okay to have no halo. It's not okay to miss the best version of yourself. And the best version of yourself is only on display when you're not intoxicated. You're not inebriated.